How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?
Last Updated: 17.06.2025 07:21
By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.
By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.
By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.
Why do I (45, male) feel like I'm crushing on a girl (19, female)?
By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”
By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”
By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.
Would the word literate carry the same meaning with public (common wealth) in 1900 vs today 2020?
By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
By taking turns talking.